One of the most oddest things I’ve encountered since I’ve identified as non-binary is that I only get compliments if I’m dressed in a femme way.
Absolutely nothing when I’m masculine dressed (which is practically every single day) or when I gender-blend.¹
I find it odd and outdated.
Are we so set in our ways that we will only compliment a person if they are dressed in the style of the gender they were born into?
I haven’t felt femme for a super long time now. It’s rare if I am; it either has to be a special event or I’m feeling unusually feminine.
This came about again recently at work…
- It was a laundry day when I wore a t-shirt dress and leggings, as I didn’t have my usual jeans and t-shirt. She was saying I looked great. This may not seem unusual, but really, she never compliments me on my appearance. Unless I look like a girl.
- Another day, a customer complimented me on my short back and sides haircut. When I gave my thanks and explained it was all my Dad’s barber’s work, they were quick to say that it still looked very feminine.
In this day and age, people should stop thinking that they have to see everything as pink or blue and place who they say in what society for so long has said what humans are.
Gender is fluid now.
And just because someone like me doesn’t conform to what people think a gender should look like that doesn’t mean they don’t want compliments on their appearance.