Gender, Journalism, Opinion

Gendered Dressing

One of the most oddest things I’ve encountered since I’ve identified as non-binary is that I only get compliments if I’m dressed in a femme way.

Absolutely nothing when I’m masculine dressed (which is practically every single day) or when I gender-blend.¹

I find it odd and outdated.

Are we so set in our ways that we will only compliment a person if they are dressed in the style of the gender they were born into?

I haven’t felt femme for a super long time now. It’s rare if I am; it either has to be a special event or I’m feeling unusually feminine.

This came about again recently at work…

  1. It was a laundry day when I wore a t-shirt dress and leggings, as I didn’t have my usual jeans and t-shirt. She was saying I looked great. This may not seem unusual, but really, she never compliments me on my appearance. Unless I look like a girl.
  2. Another day, a customer complimented me on my short back and sides haircut. When I gave my thanks and explained it was all my Dad’s barber’s work, they were quick to say that it still looked very feminine.

In this day and age, people should stop thinking that they have to see everything as pink or blue and place who they say in what society for so long has said what humans are.

Gender is fluid now.

And just because someone like me doesn’t conform to what people think a gender should look like that doesn’t mean they don’t want compliments on their appearance.

¹ Except from my Dad, who gives full thumbs up whenever I don a blazer. Or one of my best friends when I send them a photo of my gender-blended outfit. They are brilliant!
Journalism, Opinion

September Starts

I love September.

It’s my most favourite month of the year: the leaves are changing colour, the weather is at a more comfortable temperature with still sunny days, and a sense of renewal opens up.

Personally, ’tis the season when new things start to happen: new home, new course, or new adventures. Spring and fall are the two times of the year when new life turns over: spring sows the seeds of change and they are finally harvested in the autumn.

It’s like life moves itself along with nature.

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Thursday Thoughts: A Surprise Experiment

Yesterday, while roaming around London, my iPhone dies.

Luckily, I still had iPad Mini stashed away in my backpack.

So, I connected to the wifi to sent iMessages to my father to keep him updates on my whereabouts and I used its camera to continue taking photos.

The image was so much clearer and I felt I had a different photographic perspective to work with. So, it turned into quite a fun experiment.

Hmm… I may continue with this…


Thursday Thoughts: Childhood Creativity

As it is currently the Easter holidays, I see many kids at my cinematic workplace. I also note that special activities are created for children at these times, full of colour and fun.

So it put a thought into my head: when did all this play and creativity stop for us when we grew up? Why isn’t creative joy being aimed towards us as adults? Do only children get all the fun? Does society think we lose all of this as soon as we hit adulthood? Do they think we stop being artistic and imaginative?